Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Worried you’re not good at sex?

Performance anxiety is a fear we usually associate with men. But women can be equally nervous about sex. Especially since many of us have self-image issues. This can become a block to the spontaneous flow of sexual feelings and actions. Obviously, you will not be able to have fun. “In addition to this, performance anxiety can result in avoidance of sexual encounters, lowered self-esteem, relation discord and sexual dysfunction,” says sexologist. Here are five easy ways you can get rid of your concerns:
Have a drink - Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and relieves your mind of the pressure to perform in bed. Just make sure you do not drink so much that you pass out in the middle of the act. That is not going to make your partner happy.
Increase foreplay - If the two of you spend some more time getting comfortable with each other and each other’s bodies, you will be able to focus on the pleasure instead of your issues. Try showering together, give each other massages – basically, explore each other’s bodies.
Take a trip- Use a holiday to increase intimacy between you and your partner. Do things that both of you find relaxing. Once you are more comfortable with each other, you will find that getting intimate with each other becomes easier and more natural too.
Find new locations - Don’t restrict sex to the bedroom. Try other locations in or outside your house. This way, the focus is more on the place and less on you. We recommend the dining table, a swimming pool, your bathtub or even your couch. At the end of the day, all you need to do is relax.
Learn to enjoy this wonderful experience with your partner.
Dr Deshmukh

Give up smoking for better sex

Giving up smoking can dramatically improve flagging sex lives, according to a study conducted by a Hong Kong university. The University of Hong Kong study found 53.8 percent of smokers being treated for impotence said that their problems eased within six months of stubbing out their nicotine habits. That figure compared to just 28.1 percent of men treated for erectile dysfunction who continued smoking, meaning quitters have a 91.5 percent greater chance of a better sex life. Sophia Chan, a professor who helped conduct the survey, said erectile dysfunction was "very prevalent" in China and Asia and added that programmes to help smokers quit should be extended across the region. Her colleague Lam Tai-hing said: "Smokers should be aware of such adverse effects from their smoking and should quit now to prevent erectile dysfunction and other diseases caused by smoking. "In fact, erectile dysfunction patients who smoke can expect some quick benefits after quitting smoking."More than 700 men suffering from erectile dysfunction aged 30 to 50 took part in the three-year study by the university's School of Public Health and Nursing.
Dr Deshmukh